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Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout

7 reviews

gwenswoons's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional funny hopeful reflective sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? No
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

Whew. What a remarkable and stunning book, unlike anything else I know. I love the Lucy Barton books (all of them) but decided earlier this year to go back and read more backlist Strout since her most recent (Tell Me Everything) involves so many characters from previous books. I struggled with Amy and Isabelle in October and it took me a bit to get around to Olive Kitteridge, but wow am I glad I got here.

This book is so structured in such a personal and peculiar way — the whole episodic form of it is perhaps closest to Anything is Possible (the set of stories set in Lucy Barton’s hometown), but in titling it Olive Kitteridge, as she does, Strout tells us — as my writing teacher often says of poets and their titles — how she wants us to read it. Olive is a character and a protagonist like no one I have ever met in literature, and the way Strout is able to grant us access to her interiority, and that of so many people we meet in Crosby, Maine, is a miracle. The question of a character’s (much less a protagonist’s) being likable is astonishing here — for we love Olive, and the various ways we see and feel her flaws allow us to both love her fully and accept how profoundly, truly, and and often disappointingly human she is, as we are.

The book is at once so quiet — these short stories focused on individual lives of the people in the town and all their ongoing griefs and loves and hopes — and always brimming, certainly with Strout’s stunning and granular nature writing, but also with people: the book is (in a great and often overwhelming way) overpopulated almost in the style of a Dickens or a Tolstoy novel, people everywhere with almost-similar names and even, somehow, similarly-human heartaches and failings.

I do often find Strout fatphobic  — as I read Amy and Isabelle this fall, it became acute and frustratingly, glaringly obvious to me — and I wonder what I would find if I reread the Lucy Barton books now with this feeling already bothering me. Every body part on any fatter character (including the title Olive, but not  limited to her…at all) is described in its size, pejoratively and repeatedly, as nauseum. Occasionally it is as the butt of a joke (as in Amy and Isabelle), but more often it just seems like this is the most important and repeated physical descriptor the narrator has. I can’t tell if this is a backlist problem that I would hope Strout has addressed herself and in her narrators’ voices, or if this is an ongoing failing and disappointment I will have to bear if I want to read Strout’s work.

And I do — I find it heart-stopping, astonishingly often, in its quiet and vivid observations on what it is to be a human being in this world. So much of this book feels simply miraculous, and every time I put it down — after reading a page or a chapter or finishing it today — I felt lucky to get to read it.

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lindsayvale's review against another edition

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dark emotional funny reflective sad medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.25


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raybudbury's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional sad tense medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? A mix
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? N/A
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

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alexisgarcia's review against another edition

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emotional sad slow-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? It's complicated
  • Loveable characters? No
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.5


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sleeson's review against another edition

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emotional reflective medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? No
  • Loveable characters? It's complicated
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.75

This compile of short stories of Olive Kitteridge is unique. The stories jump back and forth through time. Characters are introduced in each story. It was fun connecting the dots on how each character played a role in Olive’s life. However, I liked almost every character but Olive. I go back and forth with 2.5 stars and 3 stars. I will probably listen to follow up book to see how Olive’s journey ends. 

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deedireads's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful sad medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? Yes
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? No
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

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TL;DR REVIEW:

I’m late to the game with both Elizabeth Strout and Olive Kitteridge, but I’m so glad I finally arrived! What beautifully rendered characters. I loved it.

For you if: You like linked short stories.

FULL REVIEW:

“Had they known at these moments to be quietly joyful? Most likely not. People mostly did not know enough when they were living life that they were living it.”


I’d been meaning to read Olive Kitteridgefor a good long time, because I love linked short stories and of course it’s a modern classic. Finally, my friend Bernie forced it to the top of my TBR, and I’m so glad! This book is full of really beautifully rendered characters, tender moments, hope and heartbreak.

The stories could almost be chapters, as they move more or less linearly in time and give us a progressive amount of information about Olive (a strong-willed, brusque, no-holds-barred kind of woman) and her life. But they’re not quite chapters, because they hop and bop between main characters; they’re not all about Olive herself.

Elizabeth Strout’s magic is in creating her characters very quickly and efficiently; the dialogue, details — everything — come together into sharp, lifelike relief and BOOM there goes your poor little heart, fallen for another one of them. Olive isn’t really even a nice person, and you still love her, quickly and fiercely.

Strangely as I read, this book reminded me of The Most Fun We Ever Had by Claire Lombardo. They don’t have a ton in common at first glance — linked stories vs a 500-page family saga — but they both look closely (and heartbreakingly) at what happens to marriage in old age and navigating tricky adult child/parent relationships. (Also the patriarch is named Henry in both books, lol.)

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dball1203's review against another edition

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emotional medium-paced
  • Plot- or character-driven? Character
  • Strong character development? N/A
  • Loveable characters? Yes
  • Diverse cast of characters? Yes
  • Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

Although this is a set of short stories, you really feel the connection between the stories

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