Carnegie's big secret is in making it seem like you're changing how other people behave, when really this is all about you. "How to be a better person" would be a more honest title, but maybe less appealing. Carnegie's timeless argument is that much of life, and getting your way, is about the framing of problems. This book will help you see things in a different light and, if you're lucky, bring some others along with you as you go about realising your ambitions. Highly recommended.