Scan barcode
A review by spiffybumble
Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters—And How to Get It by Laurie Mintz
5.0
Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters - And How to Get It
By: Dr. Laurie Mintz
This was an impulse grab from the library so I didn’t particularly realize that this book was geared specifically for women until I got a couple chapters in, and yet I benefited from this book immensely anyways.
Coming from a very ‘Sex is Taboo’ culture, even if a good portion of this book isn’t for me the mere reading of it helped demystify perfectly normal aspects of human biology and nature. AND, portions of it really were just as much for me as they would be for anyone assigned female at birth. Despite having gone through sex education (US, public school, so nothing too impressive) and despite having taken an actual Psych 1000 human sexuality course in college, I somehow still held certain myths in my brain that just had never been addressed before. And the biggest one, the topic of the entire book; that female pleasure comes from penetration (it doesn’t) just was always hemmed and hawed about, even by professionals paid to teach about this kind of stuff specifically.
Why can’t we be specific about this kind of stuff? Just say unambiguously that only 4-5% of women can orgasm from penetration alone. That it’s normal for two partners to achieve orgasm at different times rather than the Hollywood mutual climax. That mutual pleasure doesn’t come from the size of your bits but through mutual communication and clitoral stimulation in addition to penile.
It’s kind of funny, because I now think that it’s perfectly obvious things that I had never heard of before picking up the book. In fact, I hid the cover of the book when first reading it, embarrassed to be seen reading it, only to realize that that behavior is kind of the problem in the first place.
Good book. I’m glad I read it, and I’m glad (even if it was semi-accidental) that I read a woman-written book, for women, about women. Because I get the impression that if you mess up that trifecta, you’ll start to get some miscommunication leaking in.
By: Dr. Laurie Mintz
This was an impulse grab from the library so I didn’t particularly realize that this book was geared specifically for women until I got a couple chapters in, and yet I benefited from this book immensely anyways.
Coming from a very ‘Sex is Taboo’ culture, even if a good portion of this book isn’t for me the mere reading of it helped demystify perfectly normal aspects of human biology and nature. AND, portions of it really were just as much for me as they would be for anyone assigned female at birth. Despite having gone through sex education (US, public school, so nothing too impressive) and despite having taken an actual Psych 1000 human sexuality course in college, I somehow still held certain myths in my brain that just had never been addressed before. And the biggest one, the topic of the entire book; that female pleasure comes from penetration (it doesn’t) just was always hemmed and hawed about, even by professionals paid to teach about this kind of stuff specifically.
Why can’t we be specific about this kind of stuff? Just say unambiguously that only 4-5% of women can orgasm from penetration alone. That it’s normal for two partners to achieve orgasm at different times rather than the Hollywood mutual climax. That mutual pleasure doesn’t come from the size of your bits but through mutual communication and clitoral stimulation in addition to penile.
It’s kind of funny, because I now think that it’s perfectly obvious things that I had never heard of before picking up the book. In fact, I hid the cover of the book when first reading it, embarrassed to be seen reading it, only to realize that that behavior is kind of the problem in the first place.
Good book. I’m glad I read it, and I’m glad (even if it was semi-accidental) that I read a woman-written book, for women, about women. Because I get the impression that if you mess up that trifecta, you’ll start to get some miscommunication leaking in.