A deeply insightful and transformative read, offering a thorough exploration of the psychology behind abusive behavior. The book goes beyond stereotypes, tackling topics like the culture of abuse, the role of pornography in shaping harmful attitudes, and dispelling common myths about abusers.

Bancroft carefully distinguishes between narcissism and abuse, helping readers understand their differences while shedding light on how abusers can make lasting changes—though these steps require genuine effort and accountability. The book is practical, offering resources for women of various cultural backgrounds, book recommendations for teenagers, and guidance for those in same-sex relationships.

What makes this work especially impactful is its inclusion of tools and advice for people who assist or want to support abused women. While the book is a lengthy read, the depth of its insights and practical applications make it well worth the time. If you’re looking for a comprehensive guide to understanding and addressing abusive relationships, this book is an invaluable resource.