Not really sure how to rate this one, but I think I can give it a 4. This wasn't what I expected (not in a bad way) - I didn't realize it was a biography and not a memoir!

I also expected more gory and gross descriptions of trauma cleanings. Instead, I was given a compassionate and empathetic reflection on the human condition, what it means to be connected, and what can happen to us if we lack connection with other people.

Honestly I think this book was more beautiful than I could appreciate.

There was definitely some language regarding gender that some people might find dated. But I trust that the author, in working so closely with Sandra, reflected Sandra's experience of herself in a way of which Sandra would approve.

I also could have used some sort of warning before the fairly graphic description of Sandra's experience of sexual assault, but I've come not to expect content warnings in books more than a couple years old at this point.